I'm Tracey Dobbins, and I'm delighted to meet you!
"Everything you touch turns to beauty." Christie B.
Growing up in England in the 1960s! My mother taught me how to be a good friend. However, everything changed in my late teen years, and I couldn’t make good friends. My esteem plummeted from feeling defective and stuck in patterns of rejection. Add unhealthy body issues to the mix, too.
An innie nightmare: As I grew up, we moved around a lot. That meant constantly making new friends in new pecking orders. This was agony. Deep down I knew nothing would change unless I did. I wanted friendships I related to~why was it so hard?
Blinding light! Natural curiosity led me to uncover my sabotaging patterns. No one else was going to be the detective, so I cracked my case. I had my lightbulb moment and fixed my problems through acceptance. Everything suddenly fit into place like a puzzle once I came to terms with being introverted.
Fears popped up each time I transitioned. The only way to win was to face that fear d'jour head-on. I put myself in situations like cold-contacting a potential friend, volunteering, setting up dates, public speaking, being on stage, and traveling alone. Frustration became my determination not to let my inner critic rule...and eureka!
I was making awesome aligned friends who admired me! I began checking things off my bucket list because I had friends to do things with. Many of my friendships going back 10-20+ years became stronger. They even remember my birthday.
What I’m most proud of: Even with all my accomplishments, condensing over decades of achievements into my easy "Infinite Circle of Connections" designed for quieter folks like us makes me beam. It’s natural, respectful, and not manipulative. It guides every woman to be their own best friend first. Acceptance is where it all starts.
"Feeling lonely is a choice"
Kicking and screaming: After finishing college in the 1980s, I put my interest in psychology on the back burner and pushed my introverted self to develop public skills. It turns out I'm a natural dot connector! Some past favorites included guiding corporate fine art collections/investments, planning state-level economic development conferences and association management, working in county tourism, and being a high-end matchmaker. Oh, the stories...
Fast forwarding... I've been serving women as a certified positive psychology coach (ACC) endorsed by the gold standard for coaching: International Coaching Federation. After years of researching global studies, I knew my expertise aligned with female relationships for long-term connections. Since tabling my natural love of psychology back in my 20s, it seems that taking that other fork in the road back then brought me full circle. Cool, huh?
In my spare time: When not helping people blossom, I nurture my garden of friendships. Kicking my fears is a constant work in progress (a dozen and counting). I find joy in solitude, art, music, science, factoids, nature, furballs, and my Celtic harp "Fiona."
“A successful life is not measured by wealth, but by the colorful memories that create your life’s work of art.” Tracey Dobbins
Meet Fiona, my Gothic Celtic Harp
For 4 years, I overhauled a 1962 vintage glamper
I once had a contract to work in Antarctica
I was a finalist for the X-Prize (a global trophy competition) for the first reusable low-orbit spacecraft and my logo was included on an unmanned "WELCOME" space probe
My art was sold in top galleries nationwide, national art magazines, in private international collections, and at several exclusive Aman luxury celebrity resorts.
My one-women sculpture show appeared in Southwest Art Magazine
Once, I almost: slid off a cliff, fell into a disappearing underground river, and nearly got stuck in a cave the height of a cereal box and lived to tell.