Solid, safe, dependable friends are as basic to our well-being as food, water, and shelter. Yet their definition has become one of lifes mysteries.
Definition of friend
1 a: one attached to another by affection or esteem
She's my best friend.
Definition of acquaintance
1a: the state of being acquainted
They had a long-standing acquaintance.
b: personal knowledge : FAMILIARITY
had no acquaintance with the facts of the case
2a: the persons with whom one is acquainted
b: a person whom one knows but who is not a particularly close friend
is a casual acquaintance
Friend (noun and verb)
Definition of Friend
A “Facebook Friend” may or may not be someone with whom you have ever met or interacted with other than requesting that he or she be added to your network or that you confirmed that he or she be added to your network.
Ask anyone to describe what being friends means and they’ll likely stammer or get that glazed-over look.
Defining friendship is no easy task because we all have different interpretations and expectations. We’re also the result of our previous friend experiences. Good or bad, they left an impression. If we’ve only known “so-so” quality friends, we’re more apt to describe our idea by what we’ve experienced. Often, it's easier to define what friendship isn’t. So, what remains ends up being our hopeful definition that we keep looking for in others.
Did you have ugly models? Reflecting on our notions of grown-up friendships...
Friends truly come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and flavors and few are anything like runway models. As soon as we branched out from the family unit into the playground and local neighborhoods, we suddenly began to see a rainbow of people for the first time. The quest began to find other kids that wanted to be our friend. Turns out, this quest is an eternal one.
Some of those new play friends we met ended up being well-adjusted, thoughtful and friendly to us. While others were just spiteful for some unknown reason. They envied our shoes, lunch, or some such silliness. In retrospect, they were mirroring what they thought a friend did based on some dysfunctional experience they received or witnessed. Meanness is generally a learned behavior.
New and improved models
This carried on until we ran across new and better quality friendship examples. That suddenly gave us a benchmark to compare our other friendships against. Now there was a new and improved model. Those previous friends that didn’t pass the muster were dropped and this new and better model became our new friend. Over time, we gradually weeded out the ones that really weren't friends at all.
I'm in my element when I'm exploring thoughts of this challenging topic of female friendships. Sometimes things spill out into the real world and end up here in this blog,
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