When opposites blend beautifully
I remember this old English saying my mom used to say, “they’re like chalk and cheese.” Can you believe it dates back to 1390?
It reminded me of the Netflix sit-com duo, Grace and Frankie. These two divorced women over 50 are suddenly forced together in their ensuing transition. Their lifestyles and values couldn’t be more opposite. Yet somehow, through trial and error, they learn to embrace their differences. Maybe they see in the other person something missing in themselves? Their odd-ball friendship finds its rhythm and they become inseparable best friends.
It got me thinking because many of my dearest friendships are quite opposite of me in many ways and that’s something I treasure. No two people can ever be alike, right? Some friends are more akin to chalk. They are terrific ladies, but maybe a bit bland overall…like chalk might taste. Don’t get me wrong, I can totally appreciate them just as much as my more pungent friends.
My point is, if my chalky friends and I have a few things in common, then that’s enough to start bonding us despite there being far more differences than similarities. Each friend adds flavor to my life just by being themselves and I’m a self-professed foodie who loves variety.
When a topic comes up that points to our differences, we both lean in and share our experiences. I come away expanded after our visits. They add to my tapestry. Our conversations go places neither one can go without the other. Often its uncharted territory. I love learning about them through their stories and feel honored when they share them. That’s truly the highest gift you can give a friend, too.
Throughout our life, our close friends weave their way into our stories and become woven into our personal tapestry. If you choose to be the thread that always stays connected, you'll never feel alone. That just makes sense.
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